Wednesday, April 8, 2020

Family Vows and Commitment

Numbers 30:1-16
    1 Then Moses spoke to the heads of the tribes concerning the children of Israel, saying, “This is the thing which the LORD has commanded: 2 If a man makes a vow to the LORD, or swears an oath to bind himself by some agreement, he shall not break his word; he shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. 3 “Or if a woman makes a vow to the LORD, and binds herself by some agreement while in her father's house in her youth, 4 and her father hears her vow and the agreement by which she has bound herself, and her father holds his peace, then all her vows shall stand, and every agreement with which she has bound herself shall stand. 5 But if her father overrules her on the day that he hears, then none of her vows nor her agreements by which she has bound herself shall stand; and the LORD will release her, because her father overruled her.
    6 “If indeed she takes a husband, while bound by her vows or by a rash utterance from her lips by which she bound herself, 7 and her husband hears it, and makes no response to her on the day that he hears, then her vows shall stand, and her agreements by which she bound herself shall stand. 8 But if her husband overrules her on the day that he hears it, he shall make void her vow which she took and what she uttered with her lips, by which she bound herself, and the LORD will release her.
    9 “Also any vow of a widow or a divorced woman, by which she has bound herself, shall stand against her.
    10 “If she vowed in her husband's house, or bound herself by an agreement with an oath, 11 and her husband heard it, and made no response to her and did not overrule her, then all her vows shall stand, and every agreement by which she bound herself shall stand. 12 But if her husband truly made them void on the day he heard them, then whatever proceeded from her lips concerning her vows or concerning the agreement binding her, it shall not stand; her husband has made them void, and the LORD will release her. 13 Every vow and every binding oath to afflict her soul, her husband may confirm it, or her husband may make it void. 14 Now if her husband makes no response whatever to her from day to day, then he confirms all her vows or all the agreements that bind her; he confirms them, because he made no response to her on the day that he heard them. 15 But if he does make them void after he has heard them, then he shall bear her guilt.”
    16 These are the statutes which the LORD commanded Moses, between a man and his wife, and between a father and his daughter in her youth in her father's house.

Vows and oaths were made to hold to an agreement, a giving of one’s word.  This is both a vow to the LORD as well as to another.  If even a rash vow is uttered from unthinking lips, it was still to be adhered to as we read here.  How often men make glib promises with no intent on keeping them!  What does the Lord God require?  That we follow through on our promises, especially to Him (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5), or better yet, think before committing to a promise.  We are to count the cost.  The place of women in these times was different than now, so these verses seem to be unnecessarily harsh and one sided to us, yet they speak of vows within a family to keep it together and without trouble in the culture and before God.  The last verse makes this clear by summarizing vows as being between couples, children and parents (while the child lives in the parents’ house).  What we can learn from this is to let our answers and commitments be yes or no as we count the cost of the responsibility and consequences to follow (Matthew 5:37, James 5:12, Luke 14:28).  This is first in our promises to the Lord, and then to others made in His image. 

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